You dread walking in from work….because you know the disaster waiting for you when you walk in the door.
Dirty dishes. Piles of laundry. Toys scattered through the house. Magazines and craft supplies left in random piles. You feel too embarrassed to invite anyone over. And feel pangs of jealousy when you walk into friends’ tidy, organized homes. But take heart. You can start on a path towards a home you’re proud of today.
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It’s important to feel you can make real headway before you fully dive into declutter mode. That’s why I’ve included three preliminary steps before you start any hardcore decluttering. None of these steps are difficult. It’s just a matter of making them part of your routine. Once you’ve put these steps into practice, you’ll get into the right frame of mind to conquer your clutter once and for all.
Getting into a bed where the sheets and blankets are tight, smooth and wrinkle-free is one of life’s little pleasures. And it only takes a couple of minutes. Looking at your nicely-made bed will give you a sense of accomplishment. It helps you get your day off right without a lot of effort. Make this a daily routine for a week. Then get ready to tackle the next step in your mission for a blissful home.
Coming home to mouldy dishes in the sink and counters filled with crap is demoralizing. Who wants to cook in that mess? That’s one reason people pick up takeout (which gets to be expensive as hell.)A simple system is all you need to keep your dishes under control.
Rule 1: Put your clean dishes away as soon as the cycle ends if you can. (Or as soon as is practical.)It shouldn’t take more than 5 minutes max to put your clean dishes away. By the way, this is a perfect task for an elementary school-aged child.
Rule 2: Put your dirty dishes straight into the dishwasher. No leaving them stacked in the sink for later.Rule 3: Soak pots while you eat. (Hint: use a bit of cooking spray to make sure food doesn’t stick.)This makes your pots easy to wipe out, even if you don’t have room in the dishwasher for all of them.
Not doing your dishes can cost you plenty in purchasing pricey takeout to avoid the mess. But did you know not keeping on top of your laundry costs you money too? When you don’t have a regular laundry routine, you end up purchasing extra clothing to get you through the week.
Whenever you have enough laundry for a full load, make like Nike. Just do it. Even if that means washing a daily load to keep up with your family’s laundry.
Doing a load of laundry every few days is more manageable than giving up your whole weekend just to catch up on the laundry.
And doing laundry means you also fold it and put it away. (It shouldn’t take more than 10–15 minutes for this task.)
Don’t leave your unfolded laundry piled in a basket, unless you enjoy a wrinkled mess that needs to be ironed.
I know I’d rather spend my time doing something fun with my family instead of ironing…and I’ll bet you would too!
Consistency is the key to keeping laundry under control. Now that you’ve got routines going for bed making, laundry and dishes, it’s finally time to start your decluttering efforts.
Not having a dedicated space for everything is the perfect recipe for crap accumulation.
It’s all too easy to plop things down wherever you can find some space. Before you know it, you have piles of random junk everywhere.
That’s not even the worst. Not having a home for everything could cost you money.
You’ll end up purchasing duplicates of items you already own if you can’t find where you put them.
This means you’ll add even more stuff to your clutter collection. So before you begin decluttering, decide where to put your things.
For example, pens will go into a jar in your office, books go in the bookshelf, batteries are kept in a certain desk drawer, etc. Make yourself a checklist so you can find these items easily when needed.
“One of the main reasons stuff piles up on counters, dining tables, coffee tables and floors is that it’s homeless.” – Pam Young, FlyLady.net
Mess won’t stand a chance when you put a few simple and inexpensive tools to work in your war against clutter.
Get a timer. It’s your best friend in the war against clutter.
When you look around your house and you feel like the clutter is closing in, here’s what to do.
Pick a single room in your home. Set a timer for a few minutes and pick up what you can before it goes off.
Grab yourself a white trash bag and a black trash bag. Then get ready to take action!
Trash goes into the white bag. Items to donate to charity go into the black bag.
Why a black bag? Glad you asked. The black bag prevents anyone from seeing what’s inside the bag and dragging it back out again.
More advice? Avoid making a ‘maybe’ pile when decluttering. It only adds to your indecision over what to keep, and slows you down.
Decide in advance that every item is either a keeper, trash or a giveaway item. After you’ve finished with your session, don’t take your donation items to the basement or garage. Take them to Goodwill (or other favourite charity) ASAP.
” I made a rule for myself. Immediately after a purge sesh, I would bag up all the trash and donation stuff and take it where it needed to go… This meant the trash went straight out to the trash cans, and the donations went straight to the trunk of my car to be taken to Goodwill later.” – Allie Casazza, AllieCasazza.com
Kitchens, bathrooms, closets and kid’s toys are some of the toughest areas to keep clutter-free and organized.
But don’t let that scare you. Go slow, and tackle only one area at-a-time. All your efforts will begin to snowball fast!
It can be shocking to realize how much clutter can accumulate in one of the smallest rooms in your home.
Take an inventory of your medications and OTC medicines. If you have expired items, take them back to the pharmacy for safe disposal.
Check for empty bottles that can be recycled. Ratty towels past their ‘best before’ date can be cut up and be re-purposed into cleaning cloths.
Get items off the counter and back into the medicine cabinet, or under the sink (whichever area is more appropriate.)It will be so much easier to wipe down your counters with all the clutter gone!
Most of us have small appliances and gadgets we never use take up valuable storage space. Donate/sell your unused items.
Remove seasonal items like Thanksgiving platters, from your main kitchen storage areas.
Place these items in a well-marked box you can access when you need them.
Overwhelmed by gadgets and utensils? Empty your kitchen drawers and put your utensils and gadgets in a box. If you use an item in the box, return it to the drawer it came from. After 30 days, donate any unused items to charity.
” When you tackle your kitchen cabinets and drawers, think about which implements you have to have at hand when you are cooking and which appliances you only use occasionally. The ones that you use least often can be stowed away, leaving adequate space for frequently used ones.” -Emily Green, WorkingMother.com
The best way to deal with out-of-control toy clutter is an all-or-nothing approach.
Once your child is old enough to pick up their own toys, make a rule that when playtime is over, they pick up their toys and put them away. If the rule gets broken, grab your black trash bag and load up the toys
.It might seem a little mean, but sooner or later kids need to figure out that actions (or rather lack of them) have consequences.
Getting your kids to pick up their toys is only half of the battle. Kids’ toy collections grow over time and become unmanageable if you don’t purge regularly. To prevent tears, let your kids decide which toys to let go.
Time toy purges around holidays and birthdays where the kids get new toys as gifts and are less likely to miss old toys.
” Take away toys. When MY room was messy as a child, my mom would go in my room while I was in school and clean it. The difference is that she took away EVERYTHING that was on the floor! I mean, everything. Clothes, toys, anything that was on the floor I had to EARN it back! You can easily start out small. They pick up after themselves when you ask, give them something back.” -Sarah Titus, SarahTitus.com
No one looks forward to cleaning out the closet.
Many experts say that if you haven’t worn an item in a year, it’s time to donate it. But sometimes you’re not really sure which items of clothing you wear on a regular basis.
One suggestion is to turn all the hangers in your closet backwards. When you wear a piece of clothing, turn its hanger around the right way. After a month or two, it will be easy to see which clothing piece you wear often and which get little or no wear.
Donate your unworn, stain-free clothing to charity so it can become a regular part of someone else’s wardrobe.
” Very few people have closets and drawers that resemble those in catalogues…You will ultimately be disappointed if perfection is your goal. The goal is to set up a space that works well for your needs. That is success.” – Nicole Anzia, Neatnik.com
Getting a handle on the volume of paper in your house can make a significant difference in the overall level of clutter.
Let’s face it — sorting through piles of paper isn’t fun. So why not stop the paper clutter before it starts?
Here are some creative ways to tame your paper monsters.
I’m a mom too. I know how hard it is to let go of your kids’ art treasures.
But what if you could keep them forever without cluttering up your home? Well, you can!
Just scan or take a photo of them. Create digital folders for each child and the year they created their artwork. (Example: “Billy-Art-2019”.) Then add them to a jump drive and/or cloud storage so you can look back on them any time.
There’s no one more sentimental than me, so I get how hard it is to throw out cards from friends and loved ones. Scanning cards preserves them for prosperity, without cluttering up your home.
Create digital folders for your cards, just like you did for your kids artwork. Label them with the recipient’s name and year. If you’re so inclined, you can create sub-folders for specific holidays or occasions for that person.
How often do you hold on to a magazine or newspaper thinking, “I’ll find time to read it later.” In reality, this seldom happens.
Magazines and newspapers tend to pile up fast and get out of control. If there are certain articles you want to keep long term, scan them. When you’re finished, recycle what’s left. Look into getting digital instead of physical copies of your fav reads. No more paper clutter!
Having utility bills and credit card statements mailed to your home makes for a lot of paper clutter.
Instead, get your statements emailed out. If you’re worried a bill could get lost in your inbox, set up automatic payment via a credit card or bank withdrawal.
Scan all receipts needed for tax purposes to a dated folder designated for this purpose. Add sub-folders for separate expense categories.
This system also makes it easy to track expenses for budgeting purposes.
One caveat: before you destroy the paper copies of your receipts, verify with your local tax agency that they’ll accept digital copies.
While nothing replaces the experience of reading a physical book, consider investing in an e-book reader like a Kindle for books you’re unlikely to read more than once.
Especially for those trashy paperback novels. (Don’t pretend like you’re above them.)
E-books are also a good option for kids that read voraciously. They’re much cheaper to purchase than physical books – plus they never wear out.
Note: If you have an Apple Family Sharing account, your kids can share e-books purchased at the Apple Store.
The hardest part about decluttering is letting go of items that have sentimental value.
But all too often, we find ourselves holding on to stuff that no longer has a purpose in our lives.
If an heirloom doesn’t fit into your life, ask other family members if they’d like it. No takers? Sell or donate the item to charity with a clear conscience.
Make this your mantra: “Don’t Store Other People’s Sh*t. ” Take a look around and see how much stuff you’re storing for others.
Items other people have left with you for safekeeping aren’t your responsibility.
Set a deadline for any items you’re storing for other people to be picked up. Warn the owners that their items will be trashed or donated after the deadline passes.
And follow through!
If you have items you borrowed cluttering up your house, take them back to their owners. They’ll appreciate getting the item back – and you’ll appreciate having more room for your own things.
” I can’t let someone else’s memory be what makes me keep them. I have enough of my own memory-laden-clutter to deal with.” – Dana White, ASlobComesClean.com
The most difficult memorabilia to get rid of is our own — because these objects take us back to important times in our lives.
The teddy bear you won at the fair thirty years ago. The well-worn concert t-shirt. The ticket stub from a memorable play. The now-ratty sweater you wore the first time you met your spouse.
Your memories don’t live in your memorabilia. It has no power other than to remind you of the special moments that can only live on in your mind.
Ask yourself if you’re in a different phase of your life now and ready to let some of these items go. Find a special place to display what you do decide to keep.
“Mementos from your own life are harder to part with because when you see them, you relive the story: To you, it’s the cashmere V-neck you wore on your first date with the man who would become your husband; to anyone else, it’s just an old sweater full of holes. The key to parting with items suspended in time is not to replay that story. Leave the room, come back in and see what you’re really holding on to — a sweater that’s seen better days. Rule of thumb: If it serves no purpose, let it go .” – Andrew Mellen – HuffingtonPost.com
You’ve come a long way baby…from an unorganized and chaotic home to one to be proud of.
Now you’ll feel comfortable inviting friends and family over whenever you feel like it.
More than anything, decluttering and being organized is the matter of creating routines for yourself and your family. There really are no secrets.
And if you’re feeling a little disappointed that you’ve done all this work, and your home still doesn’t look like a page out of Better Homes and Gardens, take heart. Magazines are fantasy. No one actually lives like that
Now you have the tools and systems in place, it will be much easier in the future. Your inner slob might want to come out and play once in a while. That’s okay too, as long as you remember to show them who’s boss.
You’ve got this!
I’m excited to see that today’s moms have more choices than their own moms did to blend motherhood and work.
Gen X moms like me had few choices when it came to balancing motherhood and work. It was either stay home with the kids and lose my income . . . or go to work and send the kids to daycare.
I needed the income, so I chose to work. And when I made this choice, I knew I would miss out on so much in my kids’ lives. First steps. First words. School field trips.
So I often felt guilty because I couldn’t always be there with my kids. I felt pulled in all directions. Like I wasn’t doing justice to anything, or anyone. I hated feeling like a lousy mom.
And I know I wasn’t alone – many women my age struggled with the same issues.
But thanks to technology, millennial moms don’t have to make the same all-or-nothing choices that my generation did.
In my day, it was unthinkable to imagine that you could have a great career without a commute or the hassle of hauling tired kids to daycare.
Now, working remotely from home is becoming the new norm. The 2018 Future Workforce Report interviewed 1000 hiring managers and they estimated up to 38% of full-time permanent staff will work remotely in the next decade.
And why not?
Online productivity suites, such as Office.com, Google Drive, etc., file sharing programs, video conferencing software and messaging tools make working remotely from home possible.
Why commute to the office when you have all the tools you need to do your job online?
The tools that make it possible for full-time workers to work remotely also lets freelancers offer their services online. By 2027, it’s estimated that the majority of U.S. workers will be freelancers if the current growth in freelancing continues.
There are so many options for freelance work. Companies are hiring writers, coders, graphic designers, data scientists, media buyers, SEO specialists, project managers and others.
Freelancing lets moms can control their schedule — and to take on only as much work as they think they can handle. This makes freelancing a perfect choice for moms who want to stay home with their kids.
(Check out our tips on being productive while you work from home.)
Technology also opens up other fabulous options for moms to earn a living from home.
Tired of working for ‘the man’ — but not interested in freelancing? Good news!
With an e-Commerce business, anyone can become an entrepreneur…without forking out upfront for rent, inventory and utilities.
Print-on-demand services make it possible for artistic moms to design and sell t-shirts, mugs, pillows and much more without needing their own printing equipment.
Many of these p-o-d services will even collect payment from your customers and ship your designs directly to them.
Not the artsy type?
The online arbitrage business model is perfect for those who love finding a good bargain. And it’s very straight-forward.
Buy goods at a low cost and sell them at higher prices on Amazon or e-Bay.
Passionate about a hobby? It’s another money-making opportunity. Selling your handcrafted products on Etsy.com is only one possibility to earn extra cash.
Many people earn a good living from creating online courses teaching others the finer points of their hobbies, whether it’s photography, knitting, cooking or jewellery making.
Want recurring revenue? Create a few courses around different aspects of your hobby and upload them to a paid membership site. Charge members monthly or yearly fees to access your courses.
Last, but not least, affiliate marketing is another way for moms to earn online. They receive commissions for recommending other people’s products and services. If you can build a big audience (and email list) you can make a great income.
Technology makes life easier for millennial parents in another way, too. Now there are so many devices to speed up the drudgery of housework.
It’s a fact: kids create mountains of housework.
Dishes. Laundry. Vacuuming. Scrubbing. Sorting. The list goes on-and-on.
And you know damn well as soon as you get the house cleaned up, the kids will be trashing everything again!
But thanks to an assist from new smart devices, parents are spending fewer hours doing housework.
Robot vacuums, mopping units, window washers and even lawn mowers let you spend time with the kids while the machines do the hard work.
New top-of-the-line fridges can monitor their contents and even order groceries for you when stocks get low. Talk about freeing up your time!
Bluetooth enabled devices like Instant Pots, ovens, and sous vide machines make cooking a breeze. These devices let you turn perfect food without the need to watch over it as it cooks.
Every parent’s dream gadget has arrived — a new automatic clothes folder is on the market.
While we still aren’t at the point of having robot servants do all of the housework, we’re making progress!
It’s all about spending more time with your kids… and fewer hours doing the tasks we all love to hate.
You don’t have to give up a great job or sacrifice your education to stay home with your kids anymore. That’s a great thing!
Gen-X moms like me look forward to seeing you raise your children your own way, on your own terms.